Wisdom For Family Progress

Wisdom is knowing what to do in life situations and doing it; it is what impacts life. Wisdom is not for heaven but for now on the earth. Marriage on the other hand is the combination of a man and a woman in holy wedlock to form a God-centered home while family involves two or more people who share common goals and values, resides under one roof and are committed to each other for a lifetime. Marriage begins with leaving and continues with cleaving. To cleave means to blend together.

Crisis in the home are mostly due to lack of wisdom. What made one family without wisdom to separate brought another family together the more because of wisdom.

Matt. 7:24-27 – Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: 25 And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock. 26 And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: 27 And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.

The same thing that happened to the foolish man in the above scripture also happened to the wise man but the foolish man lacked wisdom on how to come out of the challenge.

Progress in the family begins with a desire. God will only release to you what you desire {Prov. 18:1, 10:24b}. You cannot experience what you don’t desire. You must also comply with the demands of scriptures. To comply with the scripture as a husband, you are placed with the responsibility to love and care for your wife without reservation, providing for your household and taking your responsibility and the spiritual head of the home.

To comply with the scriptural demands as a wife, you must submit to your husband, be a good home keeper and care for the members of your family.

You and your spouse must be committed to see that your family becomes a huge success in every aspect of life. You must be willing to give your time, energy, resources, etc to make your family a success. When you are committed, satisfying the desire of your spouse becomes your priority.

Mal.2:16 “I hate divorce,” says the Lord God of Israel. “I hate it when one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife. Make sure that you do not break your promise to be faithful to your wife.” {GNT}

Don’t take permanent decision because of a temporary challenge in your marriage. Don’t enter the marriage institution with alternatives in mind. Build your mental capacity to have a solid foundation in marriage and make yourself fit.

Truthfulness between husband and wife is an indispensable part of a successful marriage. Build trust with your spouse. {Prov.12:19-22}. Stop lying to your spouse; it will affect the foundation of trust in your family. Avoid fake-lifestyle. Don’t talk of what you don’t have and cannot do as a spouse. Match your words with corresponding actions. Never promise your family what you are not ready to fulfil; it destroys trust.

Another wisdom tip for family progress is that you must be communicate with your spouse. Effective communication is one of the demands for building a successful family. Communication is the ability to ensure that people understand; not only what you say but also what you mean. It is also the ability to listen to and understand others. Guide yourself not to communicate wrongly.

Col.4:6 – Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.

When you don’t communicate properly, assumption is inevitable. Don’t assume your spouse should know; communicate properly because most problems in families is traceable to lack of good communication.

Another wisdom tip for family progress is to avoid fighting correction. Any time your view correction as opposition, it will hinder progress in your home. Never see correction as punishment. You can never grow as a matured Christian until you accept correction because you cannot always be right.

Gal.4:16 – Am I therefore become your enemy, because I tell you the truth?

Additional tip for family progress is sexual intimacy and body maintenance in marriage. No marriage can be peaceful and make progress if the husband and wife are not sexually intimate. It is common for a spouse to be uninterested or unwilling to be intimate because the person is emotionally dissatisfied, tired or sick. This fall-out of events have led to break up of many marriages. Once you stop being intimate with your spouse, you create a gap that may be detrimental to the smooth running of the home.

You must not defraud your spouse under any guise particularly when your husband or wife corrects you for error observed. It is your lawful and spiritual duty to give yourself to your spouse daily or as often as it is required. It is a criminal offence before God when you deny your spouse to have marital affairs with you for flimsy reasons. As a married couple, you must make intimacy appealing and pleasurable.

1Cor. 7:3-5 – Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

In case you cannot perform your marital duty on health ground, I speak healing into your body now in the name of Jesus!

Song of Sol. 4:12-16 –A garden inclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed. 13 Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard, 14 Spikenard and saffron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices: 15 A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from Lebanon. 16 Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.

Make yourself attractive for your spouse to come close to you. Avoid over-weight. Cut down on your food intake and engage in regular exercise. Avoid general body odor – wash your mouth regularly and clean your tongue very well. Visit a dentist once in a while for thorough mouth cleansing. Wear perfume and bathe regularly. Shave regularly as well. Engage in regular exercise.

For every marriage that must make progress; you must be willing to change. Once you are willing to change, your marriage is bound to be peaceful and make progress.

God bless you

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